Archive for ◊ August, 2010 ◊

31 Aug 2010 Thinking Out Loud

If my mother wasn’t a teacher, she’d be a superhero, kicking government official ass by day and saving the world by night. After five months of getting married, and who knows how many weeks of visits to the marriage registration office, Sam and I are now married in the eyes of the law. All thanks to the efforts of my mum and her school friends.

In other news, that sound you hear? It’s the tip tapping of my fingers on the keyboard. After weeks of major writer’s block (aka the rejection that killed my will to write), I’m back to the land of the unwashed who live inside their own heads. The block and the resulting lack of interest in my own career is a long story that I will tell you about once I reach a positive ending, but for now, I’m just happy to be back to writing again. I never thought I’d say this, but blank page, I’ve missed you.

It’s interesting though. I’ve been away not only from work, but also from the Internet, and even I didn’t realize how much of a relief it would be. I hadn’t realized how taxing it was to be constantly connected– checking Twitter instead of reading a book, responding to people’s Facebook updates instead of picking up the phone and chatting. It’s so easy to get caught up in social media and feel that you’re updated on people’s lives because you’ve seen them online, but I found that I ended up calling a few select people on an almost daily or weekly basis because I wanted to catch up with them in the absence of Facebook, and connected so much more with them.

My house, of course, looked spotless over the last month. Laundry was done regularly, curtains that had been lying around the house for months were finally put up, my books have found their places throughout the house, and in what’s surprised even me, I’m loving spending time in the kitchen learning to cook.

This morning though, my fingers are on fire. I’ve finished four tasks on my to-do list already, am confident that I’ll finish at least seven more by the end of the day. Most importantly, I’m writing again.

It feels like I’ve found my way home.

19 Aug 2010 Now in Print: Elle
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I have an article in this month’s issue of Elle’s Indian edition titled “A Bitter Pill.”

By the end of the day today, more than 100 million women around the world will have taken a birth control pill. It’s completely possible that you know not one of them. While the pill has brought sexual freedom and choices to the Wet, its acceptance in India has been dismal. The birth control pill is the preferred form of contraeption in the West, but in India, only about three per cent of women use it, according to the National Family Health Survey.

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Check it out if you get a chance.

18 Aug 2010 What I’m Reading

One of the good things about taking a break from everything is the sheer amount of reading you can get done. Here’s what’s adorning by bedside table lately.

Nineteen Minutes, Plain Truth, and Change of Heart by Jodi Picoult: Picoult is one of my favorite authors for the simple reason that while she’s a fabulous writer and can weave together scenes and dialogue like no other, she also has the unique gift of asking the difficult questions and then taking a stab at answering them. Her characters are always faced with very difficult dilemmas. “Your son says the bullying was unbearable. But his revenge was murder. What would you do?” “Your baby is born in secret. If your father finds him, you will lose everything. What would you do?” “Your daughter needs a new heart. The only match comes from a murderer. What would you do?” And if those questions weren’t enough, the themes of these three books are, in order, school shootings, Amish life, and alternative Christian theories. Who says you can’t learn anything from novels?

Portrait of an Artist, as an Old Man by Joseph Heller: This novel is Joseph Heller’s last book, published in 2000 posthumously, and I have to say it seems a bit autobiographical. The story is about a novelist, Eugene Pota, who as a young man published a first book that won over readers and critics alike but has had no equivalent successes, not unlike Heller himself. Now he’s at the end of his life and career and he wants to write his last earth-shattering book. This novel is about his quest to do so and the various fits and starts as he attempts to undertake this. I loved this book with the crazy ideas that Pota embarks on, and the glimpse into a novelist as an old man.

Animal Farm by George Orwell: We were getting to a point in our marriage where Sam stated that I couldn’t in good conscience call myself an avid reader if I hadn’t read certain books, including this one. So I did. There’s always a problem with reading books that you’ve known about, read about, but never got around to reading, and that is that they’re almost always a disappointment. This one, however, as you can probably attest yourself, wasn’t. Helps that it was a quick read too.

The Brighest Star in the Sky by Marian Keyes: Okay, I have to admit that I couldn’t quite get into this one. I found it a bit too long-winded for my taste, and by the time you got to the end, you’d already figured out what the big suspense was, so there was a huge let down. It also just wasn’t as funny or touching as her usual fare. You might want to pick it up though for a good long day of easy reading if you’re already a Keyes fan. If not, skip this. It doesn’t compare to her earlier work.

Caught by Harlan Coben: I’m all caught up now, having read all of Coben’s books. This was just released this year, and as always, my work day was shot. You can’t pick up a Harlan Coben book and then expect to put it down midway (when will I learn?). Anyway, I loved that characters from Coben’s Myron Bolitar series made an appearance in this one. If you’re new to his work, I’d suggest working from the backlist. Start with his novels from the early nineties and work your way up.

17 Aug 2010 Back from a Break

In some ways, the last few weeks have just flown by. I am now a proud aunt to two as-yet-unnamed baby girls, one who is not even a week old. Both girls arrived two weeks early, one by an emergency c-section, and both have quickly become aunty M’s favorites. (My best friend and my sister-in-law are doing well.)

In other ways, time has stood still. I’ve been taking time off work to figure out what I want to do next with my career. Having achieved most of the goals I set out to and not having reached the next stage yet, I’m in a bit of limbo. I’ve been meaning to slow down the pace of work for a while now, but doing what I do, the market is such that it’s almost impossible to do that without taking a huge pay cut.

So, with a lot of hope and a few tears, I’ve been trying to figure out my next step. Journalism? Books? Both?

It’s been stressful, trying to change paths a bit. I’m at that stage in my life and career where I’m not constantly taken over by work. I reply to e-mails once a day, I take time out to read, watch television, cook, play with the cat and relax with my family. In some ways, the go-go-go nature of journalism no longer appeals to me. But the only way I’ve ever identified is as a journalist. Without that label, I feel lost.

“I didn’t marry a journalist, I married you,” Sam said to me the other day, as I fretted about how I felt I had no identity left were I to even consider taking a detour from journalism. And that’s been the hardest part of it for me. I’m used to reinventing myself, but having come this far, there’s more to lose.

So I’ve been drawing, decorating, visiting friends, and just laying low. Letting the words come to me instead of chasing after them and hunting them down.

It’s been a good break. But I think it’s time to get back to work now.