It’s been interesting the conversations I’ve been having in my groups for the last few days.
In a weekly group call I do for my coaching clients, two of the writers on the call were experiencing negative emotions after having hit goals and achieving success. We talked about the crash that comes after the high; how it is incredibly normal for someone to feel completely deflated after hitting a major lifetime milestone, and how I have witnessed, including in my own life, writers curling up on the floor and crying for days after getting big book deals or hitting six-figure income goals.
Nobody talks about this stuff because you don’t want to seem ungrateful for your success, because it makes no logical sense, and because everybody expects you to be celebrating.
Nobody talks about how most of us are so inadequately prepared for the money and the influence that we work so hard to get to that when we do in fact get there, we quite literally don’t know what to make of it.
And then, the day after this call, I got into a really in-depth and quite revealing conversation on the Finishers coaching call about mental health, working through anxiety, and I shared some very personal insights into what I had to deal with during my early years in terms of the way my manic depression manifested and some of the techniques that helped me through those ups and downs.
There are two things I have been committed to having honest and open conversations about in my business:
They’re frequently related.
But while the psychology of failure is discussed ad infinitum, there are very few people talking about what happens when creative people start reaching their income and influence goals. The ways in which they sabotage, how they sometimes continue to remain broke, why things that look like they should be working from the outside are barely functioning on the inside.
And it’s NOT because these high-earners are all stupid. You don’t work your way up to that level of income being a financially-illiterate moron.
In fact, we very rarely hear about the writer who gets the six-figure book deal and then has weeks of anxiety and panic attacks because they were barely able to pay rent before and now they have five figures sitting in their bank account and their psyche hasn’t yet gotten on board with the idea that they deserve it.
The broke, penny-pinching, desperation-filled will-hustle-like-my-life-depended-on-it mindset that is so incredibly beneficial when you’re trying to build up your income to a six-figure level can be equally detrimental when you actually get there.
And most of us don’t know how to transition out of that mindset mostly because we don’t know what then to transition into.
That’s what I’ve been researching and learning about in the last few years as I’ve hit many of my income goals, fallen into some of these traps, and have begun to understand the psychology of why this happens.
Every chance I get, I try to make sure that I share this information with the writers I work with so that they don’t repeat these same basic mistakes.
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